Some of my favorite post dating stories and those of friends are the catfish slash nonverbal white elephant that comes to sit on your face in the first ten seconds of a first date. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being older, shorter, heavier or missing your teeth… yes this is based on true events. HOWEVER, thinking that anyone meeting you for the first time and realizing you are 45 and not 35, 4 inches shorter, 40 lbs heavier or missing your front right canine and never intend to replace it becomes the first reason any future dates will cease to exist. The trust is gone and if you are willing to hide some that obvious, the next thought is - what else is this person hiding that will take longer to discover??
There are plenty of people that post pictures with kids. Whether they belong to you or not, most respectively will make sure the person looking on the other end understands the relationship between you and the little munchkin next to you. BUT… then there are the dates that decide to just chuck it into a conversation as a side note. For example, I was out for a drink with a gentleman from one of the apps. We were enjoying each other’s company, watching the 76ers game and laughing about a funny vacation story that cracked me up. As we were offering each other the last French fry, he goes, “I insist, take the last one.. oh and I think I forgot to mention I have a 16 year old….” Pause….. I asked why he did not think it was necessary to include that in his profile AT ALL and he felt it was not something he needed to share in advance. There is nothing wrong with having children at all, however, that is not for everyone and you owe it to the person you’re meeting to acknowledge this tidbit of info since you have actual humans that you’re responsible for
As someone who has been using online dating platforms for almost a decade the Corona Virus Pandemic has added a new twist to the process. Although it is certainly not ideal, to those willing to embrace this change I think they may find themselves making more meaningful connections. You may never get rid of those who use the apps for attention seeking, as a platform for rants, scams, hookups or a myriad of other reasons not conducive to finding a relationship but I have certainly noticed a change. This new normal has brought people to the world of online dating that might not have considered it before. People who were resistant to the idea of online dating are now embracing it as the most viable option in this time of isolation. Besides the advantage of a larger pool of dating prospects, generally people seem to be taking more time to invest in what they say in their profiles and reflect a little more inwardly on themselves and what they want from a partner. Yes, online dating will most likely forever be a mostly superficial “meat market” where often pictures matter more than content. But I would like to think and hope that because of Covid, people who are serious about finding someone will take more time get to know someone before meeting them. I am hopeful this effort and time should create a deeper connection than just a quick he/she is cute “Hey, want to get a drink”. After all we are all looking for the same thing, companionship in a time where you choose who you have contact with carefully. Just like the boom of virtual meetings, it is possible this could be the beginning of the golden age of online dating.
I am trying to understand the reason for this gem. Cosabella, a very nice lingerie brand, has designed, what I am calling “a face thong”. For $18 you can purchase your very own mask described as, “….seems like a leftover strip from a pair of very nice Italian lace underwear. However, because lace doesn’t actually provide much protection from anything, it is double lined, which means it is probably very hot and likely to get damp from breath condensation. This is a mask made for aesthetics, not for activity.” (Slate.com)
So… when do you wear this? To show your online date and how sexy your covered thong face can look?
Does this increase your chances of meeting the person of your dreams because you are wearing a racy face accessory, meanwhile collecting massive stache sweat and acne underneath… just saying.
Like many of you, I have been on and off dating apps for years. I often think my insane dating experiences and those of my friends would make for a really great book, movie or sitcom. I know you all have stories and experiences to share. My goal is to post my own ideas, thoughts and experiences mixed in with special guest entries covering topics I know less about. Please feel free to message me with your own stories, comments, questions that you would not mind sharing with everyone. My contact info is listed in the bottom of the site. Thank you for stopping by!